Let’s face it, we have been jealous of someone at some point in our lives. It is only human to be envious of another for whatever advantage the other has over oneself. But letting jealousy destroy one’s life is never worth it.

I had my first taste of jealousy when my friend got invited to birthday parties and I didn’t. That was during my teenage years. Then I graduated to being jealous of co-workers for getting promoted because they could speak well and was prettier than I was, even though I could do a better job than them with my eyes closed. But, being timid, I never had the guts to fight back because I never thought for a second that it would change the situation due to my condition (See my first post A for Abnormality dated 1 April 2014).

When one of the companies I used to work for decided to offer its employees ‘voluntary retrenchment schemes’, I was sad at first because it was the second company in my resume which suffered similar fate (the first one went bankrupt). Then I became angry and questioned God for giving me such bad luck. I had been stuck in the same type of job and at the same level for too many years while many of my friends who didn’t do as well as I did in school were already senior managers or higher. I was so jealous.

Then, a heartfelt talk with one of my best friends made me realised that there was no need for me to be jealous. I was more blessed than anyone else and I should count my blessings instead of wasting my time sulking.

At the end of the day, you would achieve more by refocusing your energy to take charge and work at your strengths. Jealousy is a negative vibe that eats at you. Don’t let it get in your way of living.

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  • Jealous can be used in so many ways. I have a relative claims everyone is jealous of them. No not everyone is jealous of you maybe some will be.

    Stop in from A to Z challenge.

    Coffee is on

  • Anupama says:

    Indeed… jealousy only spoils things for you.

  • Frenchie says:

    I can give you a peek into the flipside. I’ve been the target of jealousy from the first day I was brought home from the hospital. Yes, my big sister suffered from a classic case of sibling rivalry. If people knew 1% of the trials, tragedies, traumas and tribulations I’ve suffered, they’d not feel the slightest twinge of jealousy. If they had an inkling of how hard I’ve had to strive for everything I’ve attained or achieved, they would pity me or maybe feel admiration for my tenacity and ebullient spirit. I find my friends among the wounded. We have everything in common. I may appear whole, happy and healthy but that is in spite of, not because of… In six decades I have learned there will always be someone better, richer, luckier, prettier, more talented and charming than me. So what! There’s one thing I can do better than anyone else: Be me!


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